The main issues that third wave feminists are concerned about include: sexual harassment, domestic violence, the pay gap between men and women, eating disorders and body image, sexual and reproductive rights, honour crimes and female genital mutilation.

Prevalence of disrespectful gestures

And also the very patience with which men accept these gestures.

You are a man, you must forgive small weaknesses.

To such gestures I would refer to the lateness of the date or in general its cancelation 5 minutes before the beginning. Man wasted time, and the woman takes it for granted, not even considering it necessary to apologize for it.

Or another gesture: demanding to take on absolutely all expenses on the first date. I somehow missed this point, and then I noticed that for many ladies it has become quite normal to demand (not even ask) that the man ordered a cab in both directions, took to a good restaurant, bought a lavish bouquet and the rest of the list.

In this case, the man does not get any guarantees. The game of probability - maybe the woman will agree to continue the evening, and maybe not.

And we get such voluntary-coercive wishes-demands, for the refusal of which the man gets a lot of “flattering” words. But the problem is that on a subconscious level a woman cannot respect a man who does not respect himself and allows himself to indulge himself at the very first stages of acquaintance.

Relationships have lost value (for women)

Imagine two women. One has worked hard to earn a phone (saving for it for six months), and the other has received it as a gift from an admirer in love.

For whom will this phone be most valuable?

We value what we have gotten with great effort, or at least what we have spent time, effort and nerves on. What we got for nothing, we often take for granted, and are not particularly afraid to lose.

Let's apply the same principle to relationships. Take the average woman. She comes home after work, opens a dating site, and sees how for twenty-four hours she wrote about twenty-thirty men, and for five minutes that she read the incoming, she wrote to ten more cavaliers. To find a relationship she can easily, at the click of a button, writing “Yes, let's meet” to one of a dozen willing men. The question, of course, would be the quality of the suitors, but we'll set that criterion aside.

So how with such ease of dating will appreciate a single man?

She realizes that at the slightest dissatisfaction can pack her things and leave to one of the many willing, and the brighter this understanding, the stronger the woman allows herself to cross any boundaries of permissible. For her, the situation is win-win: if the man endured, she gets a submissive lover, and if not withstood - well, there are other options.

Men don't have demands

I am constantly reading/listening to amazing stories of women talking about demanding men.

What a bunch of men! All as a selection require - and that beautiful was, and cooked deliciously, and long legs, and in this case was a master!!! But they don't want to conform!

And I have just one simple question:

Where do women meet such demanding men?

Seriously. I have requirements, in fact, and no, there is a set of basic wishes (not to lie, not betrayed with other men and so on) and preferences in appearance. When I asked my girlfriends for the sake of interest, and what requirements were their past beau, they also said that with some rigid requirements did not encounter.

So either we men are very skillful liars or we really don't have many demands, and I tend to believe the latter.

Now look at the fine ladies and their demands. From time to time I have come across women's profiles that, without exaggeration, had entire paragraphs with requirements (exactly requirements, not preferences) for their suitor.

Rich, smart, handsome, active, generous, cheerful, kind, responsible, independent.....

Why is there such a difference? Because women choose men from a variety of candidates, and we, men, chew out women's attention (not to mention relationships). This translates into a situation where a man is willing to turn a blind eye even to the few demands he has, just so that the woman who finally responds doesn't switch to someone else. The woman senses this desperation, so she treats the man accordingly.

No consequences for a misdemeanor

Why as a five-year-old child did I not go to a stranger's yard, even though I really wanted to run there? Because I was afraid of punishment, because my parents strictly forbade me to go far away from home.

I knew that there would be consequences for a transgression, and if we generalize our life, we do not do some things not because of the internal code of morality and honor, but because of the consequences.

What are the consequences a woman faces in a relationship? There are...none. Seriously.

Even if the wife brings three men into the apartment, the only thing the husband can do is file for divorce, after which he will give up half of that apartment and also pay alimony.

I'm not even talking about smaller situations. What can a man do? Make a scandal? So he will be made guilty. Forbid something? A woman is free not to listen to this prohibition. Threaten to break up? As we have realized, any woman has a dozen options for a new relationship, and if by some miracle there are none, it is not a problem to find them.

A woman could respect her parents because they could punish, a woman could respect the principal because he could fine, but she probably won't respect her man because she realizes she is free to do whatever she wants and there are no consequences for it.